Couples don’t always agree on every wedding detail. We asked a bride and groom-to-be to share their thoughts on everything from the first time they met to the party planning and what they’re looking forward to most about their wedding day! See how one couple’s responses compare.

The Bride-to-be: Rebecca Sametz, 23
The Groom-to-be: David Grassi, 25

When did you get engaged?
She said: July 29, 2012
He said: July 29, 2012

How did you first meet?
She said: We met while attending the University of Kentucky basketball lottery where we had mutual friends there.
He said: One of my closest friends had a huge crush on Becka, and he kept bringing her over to my house for parties and movie nights and football games. Looking back it wasn’t the smartest move he’s ever made.

When/how did you first fall in love with your significant other?
She sad: I fell in love with David during the months that I lived with him in New Jersey the summer before I started graduate school in Michigan. His warm heart and dedication to our relationship was displayed and I always told myself that when I find someone that I can be with 24/7, that was the man that I was going to marry.
He said: I don’t remember the exact time or place or memory that made me fall in love with her, but I do remember when I realized I was. One weekend a few friends came to visit me in NJ, and we made a trip to NYC. The whole time I was there I wouldn’t shut up about her. Every store we went to I was looking for things to buy her, every interesting thing I saw I wanted to tell her about, every joke I told I kept waiting to hear her laugh. We had been doing the long-distance thing for months at this point, and it was that weekend that I realized that I loved her, and never wanted to spend another day without her.

What’s the most memorable date you’ve had?
She said: The night that we went to New York City and went on a carriage ride and got to go ice skating in the park. We laughed for hours and got a chance to snuggle under the blanket together while riding around downtown New York City.
He said: To me it was our 1 year anniversary. I took her to NYC to do all the cute things you see in the movies. We went ice skating, went on a carriage ride in Central Park and had a nice dinner — the whole shebang.

What quality do you most admire about the other person?
She said: The quality that I admire most about David is his personality. No matter what, he always knows what kind of day that I am having. Good or bad, he can make me smile — his goofy personality always makes that happen!
He said: I admire most her ability to adapt to any social situation. Whether it’s a reunion with my old high school friends, or dinner with my second cousin twice removed, she can get along, and have a conversation with anyone. It really makes me want to bring her everywhere with me.

What was the best engagement present you received?
She said: I don’t think that we got any engagement presents other than a wonderful centerpiece from my family that had peacock feathers in there just like the theme of our wedding.
He said: Well we didn’t get many engagement presents. But we did get a few relatives who slipped checks in with the congratulatory cards, and with that money I bought a grill. So I vote the grill.

What was the weirdest/worst engagement present?
She said: None.
He said: Her mom had flowers waiting for us when we got back from the weekend we got engaged. Because Becka loved the colors of peacock feathers, and we knew we wanted them involved in our wedding, these feathers were a dominant part of the arrangement. It was a really sweet thought, but it looked like someone shot a bird and stuffed it into a vase. It was just odd.

How would you describe the style of your wedding?
She said: David and I are very much kids at heart. We enjoy laughing and having a good time, so we want a classy wedding but one that will also display our personality. For example, our wedding is a peacock theme but our save the dates are going to be like a film reel. We are going to put on different costumes and make funny faces!
He said: Loud. We’re both very outgoing people, and with the colors in the wedding (Royal Purple and Lime Green) the best way I can describe what will transpire, both visual and aurally, is just loud.

What’s been the most fun detail of your wedding to plan?
She said: Well, I know what David would say (the cake testing), but I enjoyed looking at the different venues and being able to picture our magical day together.
He said: Picking out the catering has been my favorite part so far. Stations, buffet or plated dinners, what type of food, all the options involved… the candy bar!!!

What’s been the most difficult detail of your wedding to agree upon?
She said: When to have the wedding. I wanted to have the wedding right away, and he wanted to wait until I was completely done with school so that we can go straight to our honeymoon without having to wait. I eventually gave in because in the end, as long as I am with him, it doesn’t matter when or where we get married!
He said: The date. We have been bickering about when to have the wedding since we started dating it seems like. She would have it tomorrow in Vegas if she could and I want plenty of time to plan an elaborate event.

What do you look most forward to: the wedding day, the wedding night, the honeymoon?
She said: The honeymoon — because that will be the first time that we get a chance to be together as husband and wife without any distractions!
He said: I think the wedding day, mostly for the reception. The ceremony I will just be nervous, the honeymoon I will probably not remember, but the reception I just want to enjoy introducing my new wife to all my friends and family and enjoy the time spent with all of them.

What will be the most unique detail at your wedding ceremony/reception?
She said: We are getting married at Keeneland Horse Park, so that is definitely something different. But the main thing that I believe is different are the centerpieces that my mom created all by herself. She wanted to be able to contribute to the wedding and she is definitely a woman of style! My mother did a wonderful job displaying our fun personalities.
He said: I think it would have to be the colors. It’s not often you see Lime Green and Royal Purple paired. It should be an interesting combination, but it fits us. Lime green is her favorite color, and royal purple is mine. Some people have poked fun at them for being Barney colors, but I prefer to think of the Joker from Batman.

What moment of your wedding day are you most anticipating?
She said: That first kiss as husband and wife. I can’t wait for the fireworks to go off and to kick off the next chapter of our lives together.
He said: I know it makes me sound like a fat kid, but the food. We’re going to have a candy bar, and a variety of ethic food stations, and what I can only imagine will be an epic cake. I know most people say you won’t have time to eat. I will make time!

How will you feel when the wedding planning is all over?
She said: I’m not sure. I am assuming based off of other stories and advice from friends that I am going to definitely be relieved that it is over, but up to this point I am enjoying every minute of it!
He said: Poor. I’m sure everyone knows all the costs involved. So after the DJ, the reception, reserving the church, the limo, the rehearsal dinner, the flowers, the honeymoon… I’m predicting the overwhelming feeling I will have will be the pain in my wallet.

What are your honeymoon plans?
She said: We would like to go to Jamaica for our honeymoon (or at least I want to!). We just want an all-paid resort honeymoon where we do not need to worry about the expenses, but can just focus on our time together.
He said: I’m still searching but I’m hoping to find an overwater bungalow in the Caribbean. I want something secluded and not terribly far away, and all inclusive. Still searching but that is my dream honeymoon location.

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Couples don’t always agree on every wedding detail. We asked a bride and groom-to-be to share their thoughts on everything from the first time they met to the party planning and what they’re looking forward to most about their wedding day! See how one couple’s responses compare.

The Bride-to-be: Francesca Bove, 27
The Groom-to-be: Joe Bertelloni, 29

When did you get engaged?
She said: December 12, 2011
He said: December 10, 2011

How did you first meet?
She said: Joe and I met in the Jesuit Volunteer Corps. I was a volunteer at the time, and Joe had already been through the program.
He said: We both participated in a volunteer program in Newark, NJ called the Jesuit Volunteer Corps. She did the program three years after me, but I was still living in New Jersey and worked with the new volunteers to get them adjusted to the program and ready to live in the city of Newark.

When/how did you first fall in love with your significant other?
She sad: Joe and I were friends for a while before we started dating, so we gradually fell in love.
He said: It was gradual, but then all at once it happened. She was in law school and I was in grad school and we had a common cause of work. She drove me to work harder and do better, and one day I looked up at her and knew that I loved her.

What’s the most memorable date you’ve had?
She said: The most memorable date was at a restaurant in Florence, Italy. It was just the two of us in the restaurant — very romantic.
He said: It might not be a date, but it was perhaps one of the best memories I have with Fran. We were in Venice and we got lost. Really lost. We had a map, but it seemed kinda useless as we couldn’t find the streets on the map. It was hours of walking but it was an amazing adventure and a perfect day.

What quality do you most admire about the other person?
She said: Joe is the most selfless person I know. He would do anything for anyone he knows, no matter how close they are.
He said: Her drive, her ability to be dedicated to a cause so passionately.

What was the best engagement present you received?
She said: Our coffee pot!!!
He said: My favorite so far has been a convection toaster oven. I love to cook and that thing just does so much so easily.

What was the weirdest/worst engagement present?
She said: We didn’t receive any bad presents — registering was so much fun!
He said: Oh man, is that a fair question? I think the weirdest was body wash…

What’s been the most fun detail of your wedding to plan?
She said: I loved planing the wedding at my parents’ home, so the best details have been generally to plan a whole event space that had never been used for a wedding venue.
He said: The menu. Our caterer has an amazing restaurant. And the cake tasting was delicious.

What’s been the most difficult detail of your wedding to agree upon?
She said: We didn’t really disagree on anything, because I planned the wedding and told Joe to show up!
He said: I don’t think there has been something that we couldn’t agree on. I’m pretty easy and trust in her taste more so than my own.

What do you look most forward to: the wedding day, the wedding night, the honeymoon?
She said: The wedding day.
He said: I’m looking forward to the wedding day. I love a good reception.

What will be the most unique detail at your wedding ceremony/reception?
She said: Our wedding favors are bride and groom maple candies to celebrate love in Vermont –they are so cute!
He said: Hmm, I would think the setting. It will be in the Vermont mountains during peak foliage time. So hopefully the trees will be perfect.

How did you/do you plan to celebrate your bachelor/bachelorette parties?
She said: I went to New York City with my girlfriends because it was a central place to meet. My girls planned it all for me and t was awesome!!
He said: I went to Ocean City, MD with my groomsmen and friends. It was a few days on the beach partying. Exactly what I wanted.

What moment of your wedding day are you most anticipating?
She said: Saying our vows.
He said: I am definitely looking forward to the ceremony itself, but I think what I am most anticipating, and it might be strange, is the walk down the aisle after the ceremony.

How will you feel when the wedding planning is all over?
She said: Relieved!!! It is so much work to plan a wedding.
He said: Very relaxed. I hope.

What are your honeymoon plans?
She said: We are still planing the honeymoon, because we can’t go right after the wedding. We will be going to a tropical beach in the Caribbean.
He said: Because I’m a teacher we are looking to go sometime in February to the Caribbean for a week. Something nice and beachy.

*Editor’s note: Since the questionnaire was sent out, the couple wed on October 6, 2012. Congratulations!!!*

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