7 Things I Loved About My Wedding

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Recently on Modern Family, Jesse Tyler Ferguson’s character, Mitchell, had some hilarious hiccups while wedding planning with fiancé Cam. Even though it’s been almost a year this July (happy anniversary!) since he married lawyer Justin Mikita in real life, the newlywed is still obsessed with certain planning details and special moments from his nuptials. Here he shares seven of his (and our) favorites.

1. Choosing our rings
Picking out our wedding rings was something we were really stressed about, but once we were actually there with the jeweler, looking in the mirror with the bands on, it was very special. And when we finally purchased the wedding rings, that was an insane moment—like, “We just bought our wedding rings!”

2. Hiring a wedding planner
Each decision is like a Pandora’s box. Whatever it is—a fork on the table or the structure of the ceremony—there’s always a billion more questions about that one item. We had to use a wedding planner since we are so busy, so fortunately we had someone else micromanaging everything. That said, while we both err on the side of wanting it to be perfect, we weren’t crazy groomzillas. We hadn’t had ideas about our wedding since we were kids, so we discovered as we went along.

3. Our officiant
The highlight of the day was having playwright Tony Kushner marry us. He wrote an amazing ceremony—it should be published. It was truly an honor to have him there.

4. The party
We started with dancing before dinner. We wanted to set the tone that this would be a wild party. We paraded all our guests down the streets of New York City’s SoHo from the venue to the Crosby Street Hotel, where we had an after-party that lasted until 2 a.m.

5. The bow ties
We made special ones as a gift to our guests from our foundation to support marriage quality, Tie The Knot (TieTheKnot.org). Band of Outsiders designed our own bow ties, as well as our tuxes—navy for me and gray for Justin.

6. Eating before the reception
After our ceremony, Justin and I had a private dinner while our guests went to cocktail hour. It gave us a chance to absorb what just happened and eat. Everyone I know who has gotten married said that they never ate because they were greeting guests. We stopped by the tables as our guests dined. It was perfect.

7. Watching it all come together
Seeing our invitations for the first time was exciting. Then hearing all the support from our family and friends was gratifying. We just tried to absorb every moment as it came. Planning was stressful at times, but overall, very special.

As for one of our favorite details from Jesse’s wedding? This adorable customized cake topper of the couple! Too cute!

Originally published in The Knot Summer 2014 magazine on newsstands now.

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