Do I Have To Invite My Boss and Coworkers?

Inviting Bosses and Coworker Etiquette Heather Saunders Photography

In short: You should never feel obligated to invite anyone to your wedding (even if they do control your paycheck).

The easiest way to avoid any drama is to not invite any coworkers to your wedding. That way if anyone asks or you suspect one of your coworkers is itching for an invite you have an easy out.

On the other hand, if there are co-workers or bosses you want to invite but are worried about an awkward exchange at work with others, there are really two ways you can go.

If you’re close to one or two coworkers (like you hang out outside of the office) and everyone knows it, then there should be no problem inviting just them. Just don’t hand them their invites at work or make a big deal out of it.

However if you work on a smaller team and are considering inviting a handful of co-workers (that you aren’t friends with outside of work), then it gets tricker. In that case, you really should think of your invite list in circles. So either invite the entire team or skip them altogether.

As for your boss, invite him or her if you have a friendly relationship and it doesn’t hurt as a nice gesture, but you’re certainly not required.

Your turn! What do you think about inviting coworkers and bosses to your wedding?


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  • Erin
    11/27/14 at 01:59

    So I have a question about etiquette. My fiancé and I are having a destination wedding, and besides the members of our wedding party our guest list consists strictly of family. However there are several individuals, whom we are unable to invite to the wedding, that I want to invite to my bridal shower and other pre wedding festivities. These individuals are friends or ours but could not be on the wedding guest list due to financial restrictions. Would it be ok to invite these individuals to the bridal shower and other festivities even though we are unable to invite them to the actual wedding?

  • Simone Hill
    12/01/14 at 01:00

    Hi Erin! In this case you’d still want to avoid inviting anyone not invited to the wedding to the shower. Because showers are centered around gift-giving, they may think they’ve only been invited so you can get a gift. Instead, you could invite them to a small, low-key reception for friends and family in your hometown in lieu of a shower so you can celebrate with friends and family. They’ll be understanding if they know you are keeping your destination wedding to just family. Happy planning! – Simone

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