6 Techy Commandments for Every Bride
Times have changed: iPhones, inspiration boards, mobile banking, Facebook groups (to name a few) all make it easier to plan a wedding. Just don’t find yourself guilty of any of these big tech-related mistakes!
1. I Will Not Leave A Photo Of My Dress On My Phone
For something exceptional like a wedding dress, image posting on social media is out of the question. To ensure your fiancé doesn’t discover a shot of you in the dress of your dreams, take those photo off your phone and save them in elsewhere. Better yet, ask your bestie to take them on her phone.
2. I Will Not Assume My Friends’ iPhone Counts As A Photographer
With all the websites and apps out there, everyone seems to believe they can stand in as photographers, DJs or wedding planners. But while some things can be done well by amateurs, certain things do require professionals. And we don’t want you to end up with fuzzy photos before you comprehend your miscalculation. Be honest with yourself and figure out your budget and priorities. This is one of the most important days of your life. Can you live with overexposed photos being all the world sees of your wedding? Things like curating a high-quality collection of music or photos as well as last-minute wedding-day troubleshooting are skill sets that most nonpros simply don’t have. So know what you can handle and what you cannot, and hire a professional whenever possible to save yourself from tears later.
3. I Will Remember That Pinning Is Not the Same As Planning
We know how useful these boards are, but we also know you can spend literally all day on them if you’re not careful. At some point, you have to actually go out there and meet the great wedding pros that will bring your creation to life. Our advice: Go crazy on the boards when you’re in your “dream” phase, but set some limits. It doesn’t have to be perfect before you share it with others; it can evolve over time. And, when you meet with, say, your florist or potential venues, you’ll be able to hone your vision a little more. Also, drag in lots of images at first and then weed out what you don’t like.
4. I Will Not Buy My Dress On A Shady Website
We all know how expensive planning a wedding can be, which makes the so-called discount websites very appealing. If a $5,000 dress selling for $50 sounds too good to be true, it probably is — even if you see a great looking photo of it on the website. It’s best to go to actual brick-and-mortar stores for something like your wedding dress. That way you can see what it looks like on. If ordering online is just a lot more convenient, make sure the site you’re buying from is approved by the designer. One big hint that it’s probably not, is if the site also sells random items like batteries. (Seriously.)
5. I Will Not Forgo Paper Wedding Invitations for .jpg Files
With so many technological advances, there may be more people who are okay with emailing their wedding invitations these days. But is it really a good idea to totally let go of old, time-tested traditions? Especially if great grandma doesn’t even have a computer? Besides, there’s something so romantic about going analog on the invitations.
6. I Will Not Turn My Facebook Feed Into A Wedding Vent
Yes, we know there’s a lot of stress in planning a wedding. Whether it’s struggles with in-laws or guests not being the most generous with their gifts, you just want to blow off some steam. Along comes Facebook, Twitter, group emails and WhatsApp. So what’s a quicker and better way to share your concerns with anyone who will listen, right? Consider this: We’ve seen complaints by brides go viral, leading them to infamy and (sometimes) prolonged, public humiliation. So before you pour your heart out, check the privacy settings on all your social-media accounts and make sure none of your complaints can be seen by the public. Ensure that the names of the groups you’re in contact with through both WhatsApp and email are very clear, so you won’t end up talking about your in-laws to your in-laws. That definitely wouldn’t be good.
(Article first published in the 2013 regional Knot magazine; Written by: Eustacia Huen)
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