Being insecure and uncomfortable is also on you, not on her. If you need more than an hour to warm up because you are, as you put it “self-conscious and anxious,” then that’s not the photographer’s issue, it’s yours.

That the next couple was on time for their appointment and you were late because you didn’t confirm the address isn’t the photographer’s fault, either, it’s, guess what, ALSO your fault. Frankly, blaming them for booking an appointment “so close” to your time slot is ridiculous. The world doesn’t revolve around you. If you’re late to the dentist’s you have to sit and wait. However, by your logic that would be the dentist’s fault. The fact that you may or may not be “self-conscious and anxious” about your appointment does not make your lateness less egregious or impolite.

One of these was in the address on google maps for a studio turns out to be outdated, and this meant we ended up being about 1/2 an hour late for a meeting. To make matters worse, in this meeting we had just barely begun to feel relaxed and comfortable (because both my fiance and I are like you, Robert, and very self-conscious and anxious about photography)….when a second meeting showed up. I felt she ought not to have booked us so close to this other meeting, even if we had been on time it meant we had less than an hour for our session. We also felt this photographer was a bit too conventional and we were looking for an artistic approach/photo journalistic approach.

We ended up hiring a team of two women, one of whom does the photo journalism thing the other of whom does artist shots. They are in Gaithersburg, Virginia but do travel. Feel free to contact them if you would have the budget to pay travel/hotel. They are wonderfully relaxing, professional, competent, and pleasant. Paired Images – but Joel and I refer to them as “The Jesses.” (They are both named Jess.)