Your parents have a right to choose where to spend their money. It is YOUR wedding, but its THEIR money. Have a sit down with them explaining your frustration and your wishes and how important it is to you. If they have envisioned you getting married elsewhere and cannot see otherwise, time to start saving your money so you can pay to go elsewhere. If you don’t want to pay for things, then take a deep breath and try to compromise with them. You are very lucky that your parents have offered to pay for everything. We choose to put our wedding off for two years because we do not want others to pay for our wedding or have the burden of feeling like they have a right to choose things because they are paying.