Comments on: The Honeymoon Jar Controversy http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/ Just another WordPress.com site Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:26:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Ella http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-7513 Tue, 12 Feb 2013 23:31:19 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-7513 Hi Bethy Eloise:
I hear where you are coming from but I have always heard that making any mention to gifts, money and/or a registry on the invitation is also tacky and presumptive. I think you’re on the right track, but I’d do this on the wedding website and in the registry itself. My fiance and I have a universal registry on amazon.com, and we have a number of gift cards in there (home depot, bed and breadfast, cheesecake factory, spa day.) It’s also possible with universal registry to include “American Express Travel” or “Liberty Travel,” etsy dollars, a specific location’s hotel or restaurant etc. That’s the way I’d play it if I was the couple seeking the honeymoon jar or dollar dance alternative.

Ella

]]> By: Bethy Eloise http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1584 Tue, 28 Aug 2012 09:25:08 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1584 I like these, but I never want to offend anyone and think I have found a great alternative.
There are loads of websites such as ‘buymyhoneymoon.com’ where you can start an account for you guests to pay into where the amounts are anonymous.
Also a lot of travel agents do vouchers, the only problem with this is you can end up with them from different agents then you can’t use them all for one trip.
The best solution I have found is to put a little poem or note in your invites saying rather than gifts you would like a donation towards your honeymoon and include the website or travel agent you are using.
Also if everyone does this you can send a happy smiley photo from your honeymoon out with your thank you cards when you get home and they will all feel they have made you both happy by giving you a nice time.

]]> By: Charlie http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1581 Tue, 28 Aug 2012 02:41:42 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1581 Maybe I’m old fashion but I feel like the idea behind gifts at a wedding is to help a new couple furnish their home or get a headstart on their new life together. The idea of subsidizing someone’s flight to Hawaii doesn’t seem to fit. Then again, the electronic gift registry was invented by Target…

]]> By: Latoya S http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1580 Tue, 28 Aug 2012 01:16:19 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1580 not everyone needs a traditional bridal registry. my fiance & I are combining 2 households & do not need another blender, coffee maker or crock pot. we like the idea of a honeymoon registry. you still have to pay for everything up front. i love the idea for couples in our situation.

]]> By: Bex http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1579 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 21:34:10 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1579 I like how Amanda approached this. We have been going back and forth so many times on what to do – we are expected to pay for almost all of our own wedding (no other help from family). So a honeymoon is not even feasable. The other thing is we have had our house for 2 years now, we don’t need more “stuff”. But I am hestating to do something like that. We were going to do a dollar dance but I don’t know.

]]> By: sara http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1576 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 20:12:29 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1576 agree with stone. great idea for the couple to keep in their home and contribute to personally, but not appropriate for the wedding reception.

]]> By: Lizard http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1575 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 19:57:41 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1575 Gross, tacky…no no no

]]> By: Stone http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1573 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 19:21:37 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1573 Great to have around the house for the engaged couple to personally add throughout the year of their engagement, but skip it at the reception.

]]> By: Amanda http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1572 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 18:49:04 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1572 Its totally tacky…as is the dollar dance. It puts pressure on people who are feeling a hit from the economy. AND even worse you might not know
Some of your guests. There is a high chance of theft with this.

My fiancé and I want $ for our honeymoon, but instead of Doing something like this I put a photo of a Disney gift card on our wedding website saying “what a great gift! We can use this on our honeymoon”.

It’s not a slap in the face like a personal tip jar. It’s just a tip to people who don’t know what
To bring.

Also, I wouldn’t bring more than drink $ to a wedding

]]> By: Lyndsey http://blog.theknot.com/2012/08/27/honeymoon-jar-at-weddings/#comment-1569 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 17:58:37 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=8728#comment-1569 We had one at our wedding in lieu of a tip jar for bartenders. Our wedding was at a private residence and therefore we could not charge people for drinks because we didn’t have a liquor license. Also, we didn’t do any sort of dollar dance. We made $200 and did use it on our honeymoon for dinner:)

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