Comments on: The Polite New Way to “Register” for Cash: WeddingRepublic.com http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/ Just another WordPress.com site Sun, 19 May 2013 14:01:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Gail http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-782 Sat, 21 Jul 2012 03:50:00 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-782 Agree with Michelle. This is tacky. No one is required to give you a wedding gift (hence why it is rude to but registry information anywhere on the invitation). If you don’t need or want physical gifts, just don’t register (and remember to turn down any bridal showers) and people will get the hint and give you cash that you can use however you want. The only one that loses in this scenario is the vendor that doesn’t make their 4.5% on their tacky product.

]]> By: Amalia http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-778 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 16:42:38 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-778 The idea of gifts for a wedding is generally a sticky situation, you really shouldn’t be asking on your invitation for gifts be it a registry or money. I have found the approach that works for my clients is that if you leave the notion of gifts off of your invitation, people are more likely to ask you if you are registered somewhere; you then take the opportunity to thank them for the thought of purchasing a gift, but you would prefer monetary. People are more receptive to a personal conversation rather than dictating what they will do. Keep registries for your bridal shower and money for your stag and doe (if you choose to have one)

]]> By: Michelle http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-775 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 14:37:26 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-775 Gross. My husband and I lived in Italy (and still live overseas!) and we did a small registry, but everyone gave us cash. No one needed to be asked in this disgusting and INCREDIBLY misleading manner! Someone buys you a dinner, and instead you cash in the cost (minus 4.5%?!) and do whatever you want with it.

As for the down payment for a house: In this age, where so many people are struggling to hold onto homes, or have lost homes, how does that make your guests feel??

No matter how you say it, sugarcoat it or dress it up– TACKY is TACKY.

]]> By: Courtney http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-774 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 14:02:38 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-774 My fiancé and I are taking a similar approach, Joanna. We really would like money towards our honeymoon but instead of “asking” for cash, we’re only registering for a few quirky things (like luggage and camping gear and a few household odds and ends) and then our parents will put the hint out there that we’re really trying to have a fantastic honeymoon. And really, if we get a second blender, chances are we can take it back and at least get store credit. We’re going to register at Target so we can get groceries with a credit if we have to go that route. :) It’s not tacky to WANT cash, you just have to sugar coat how you get it!

]]> By: Joanna http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-773 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 12:52:34 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-773 Asking for cash is TACKY, no matter how nicely you do it. Your guest are should not be expected to foot the bill for your wedding. No matter how “times” change, there are still some etiquette rules that should never be broken. Just don’t register anywhere, people will get the hint and give you money.

]]> By: thediaryofsugarandspice http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-772 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 12:40:01 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-772 Perfect!! We live in Germany although we are getting in the US. Definitely can’t bring all the lovely presents home with us without paying a fortune so this is much better!

]]> By: Melissa http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-771 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 12:25:26 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-771 I am in my mid forties and getting married for the first time. I don’t need a lot of household items and we have a very small budget. We are actually going to use a registry with our photographer. People will “buy” a picture or album or frame. The money goes into an account that we can use toward our bill. We could also use cash toward repairs and remodeling. I think these types of registries are much more practical and meet needs for the future as well.

]]> By: C http://blog.theknot.com/2012/07/19/the-polite-new-way-to-register-for-cash-weddingrepublic-com/#comment-769 Fri, 20 Jul 2012 11:56:39 +0000 http://blog.theknot.com/?p=5483#comment-769 I am in that dilemma right now. My fiance and I have lived together for 3 years and don’t need a lot of the traditional stuff. We would have rather have help towards our honeymoon, or money towards a house. We are not asking people to buy these things for us in any way, just to spend therir money towards something we can actually use! So is it tacky or rude, I don’t know but I think I’m willing to try it

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